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Post by ADayOnceForgotten on Jul 27, 2015 21:50:02 GMT -5
I'm sure by the fact that I have nearly three thousand posts (is this my 3,000th post?) that I'm not a new member. But I thought that maybe this would be the right place to come back and.. formally say hello again. I've been on and off of this site for the last two years and I'm back (hopefully!) for good. Or at least a while longer.
So hello, after like a five month hiatus. I'm Alex. Feel free to message me for plotting or just to become friends
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2015 21:53:34 GMT -5
Rofl you were a girl last time you were on. Changes we didn't know about in the last five months?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2015 21:58:10 GMT -5
Well just thought I would say something cause currently your status says your a boy.
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Post by ADayOnceForgotten on Jul 27, 2015 22:00:32 GMT -5
Yeah, yeah I am. I'm not sure how much you know about trans things- but obviously not a whole lot. This is actually the first time anyone has actually said something that ... blunt about it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2015 22:02:43 GMT -5
Hehe. Well I do actually know a bit about it but there isn't any point in beating around the bush. Nothing wrong with being blunt.
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Post by ADayOnceForgotten on Jul 27, 2015 22:10:43 GMT -5
Well thanks for the super warm moderator welcome back to this site, but I think I might not come back afterall. There is actually a lot wrong with being blunt, in certain cases, when it comes to being borderline rude about something that is probably the biggest deal in someone's life. Just a nice, "Welcome back!" would have been appropriate, I think, but maybe the maturity and respect levels on this site have decreased since I joined back in 2013.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2015 22:15:35 GMT -5
Don't take it so personal. Up to you to do what you want.
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Post by Dash on Jul 27, 2015 22:16:51 GMT -5
Hey. I just joined on anonymous account to post this, because I'm sure I'd be targeted if I did this elsewhere.
As a moderator, don't you think you could've handled that better? I am trans, like Alex. Brushing off an apology with, "There's nothing wrong with being blunt," is not okay. You are a moderator - a person of authority. "Rofl [...] Changes we didn't know about in the last five months?" is not an appropriate response. Why not privately message them and ask what is with the change? Even if you didn't even consider transgenderism, why would you - as a moderator! - call someone out like that? You have alienated two people from this place. Congratulations.
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Post by ADayOnceForgotten on Jul 27, 2015 22:17:28 GMT -5
Thank you, Dash.
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Post by HerWhisperIsTheLucifer on Jul 27, 2015 22:37:19 GMT -5
I agree with Alex. If you we're really curious about it, you could'be asked nicer instead of your usual blunt and somewhat rude way... You don't know how Alex feels about it. Could've been a touchy subject and to mention it that way wasn't very respectful. Anyways, welcome back Alex! I've missed you ^_^
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2015 13:27:21 GMT -5
In retrospect I think that since this was public an apology should be as well. Assumptions are dangerous as was proved last night. My assumption with the first statement was anything but... I do not know Alex personally so there was no way that I could have known. Did not say any of those things out of malicious intent.
For future reference I will be more aware of status changes and comments on them. I could have handled that much better. At the first mention of having hurt feelings it would been much more appropriate to apologize as I had not realized that what I said was hurtful. It was wrong to give the 'don't take it so personal' speech. Again I'm sorry I did not intend to hurt anyone's feelings.
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Post by Brenda on Jul 31, 2015 0:32:01 GMT -5
Hi everyone. I'd like to start by giving an apology to ADayOnceForgotten, Dash, and any other member this topic may have offended. This is certainly not an example of the TRPS community as a whole, which has high standards for being non-discriminatory and generally accepting of all members, including those in the LGBT community. TRPS has always been a place which welcomes everyone who has a desire to write and is willing to respect others on the forum. This is also the second rule in the list, although after this event I have decided to make it more specific. I am personally very sorry this incident occurred and I have taken action to discourage it from happening again. I hope that you will allow us to welcome you back.
For reference, this was the old rule before I edited it (to see the new version, please view the rules thread) :
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